In using Cambodian Etiquette, when walking in front of or passing an elder, a younger individual should bow to show respect. Hence, I bow to my elder. You did identify yourself as such. And, my parents would be totally ashamed should I failed to demonstrate proper respect. With this said, I go back to my post from a few days ago. I worry that your anger management issues are causing you unhealthy feelings concerning my mother in law and myself. I urge you to make use of the internet to make contact with the right organizations so that this anger does not cause you any unnecessary bodily harm. You also may want to think about discontinuing this back and forth banter. It doesn't seem to bother us... but seems to put you on edge. We worry about your safety. I'm sure your mother would agree your health is paramount... and far more important than whether or not a whelp like myself is showing you the respect and honor you are due.
Moving on to the others who read this blog, the family had a very nice dinner together yesterday. We enjoyed being in each others company and look forward to future family gatherings. I think that my husband will be on a slight sugar high for a few more days... but we are all recovering nicely from the great food and wonderful company.
Monday, March 24, 2008
Sunday, March 23, 2008
Thanks to All
As the head blogger of the family, I thank all of you for your calls of concern about the past couple blog entries. This phantom emailer keeps sending us those odd comments. We promise, from now on, we will keep the Anon. msg to a minimum. Good to hear from some of you, though. Jane/Stephen/Bill/and I really enjoy knowing that we are in the thoughts of those who check up on us! :)
Friday, March 21, 2008
Replying to Anonymous Again
Well... this seems to be the day to reply to comments on the blog. In our last entry, we asked Anon. to "speak using his/her own words". Well, the reply used quotes from Am I Angry (www.amiangry.com). This is causing us to really worry about your well-being, Anon.! We cannot be of assistance to you in solving this disagreement with us if we don't what we are doing to you. Although, the use of tincture dates you. Please, Anon. Use your own voice and contact us. You could even call us collect... I have no doubt you have the number... hasn't changed in over 20 years. This anger is unbecoming a person of your linguistic and verbal abilities. You cannot wound us. We are a family.
Reply to anonymous - Part 2!
Dear Anonymous:
Once again, we are interested in your response. However, we feel that you may be misinformed about the "quotes" you are using. Both Micah and Luke were not speaking of families being against each other in times of normality. These were in times of strife, times of famine, and times of great civil unrest. And, it was not to be taken as literally as you use them to quote. These quotes are literally taken way out of context. The actual Micah and Luke passages are as follows:
Luke 12: 49-53
49"I have come to bring fire on the earth, and how I wish it were already kindled! 50But I have a baptism to undergo, and how distressed I am until it is completed! 51Do you think I came to bring peace on earth? No, I tell you, but division. 52From now on there will be five in one family divided against each other, three against two and two against three. 53They will be divided, father against son and son against father, mother against daughter and daughter against mother, mother-in-law against daughter-in-law and daughter-in-law against mother-in-law."
Micah 7: 1-7
7:1 Woe is me! For I have become
as when the summer fruit has been gathered,
as when the grapes have been gleaned:
there is no cluster to eat,
no first-ripe fig that my soul desires.
2 The godly has perished from the earth,
and there is no one upright among mankind;
they all lie in wait for blood,
and each hunts the other with a net.
3 Their hands are on what is evil, to do it well;
the prince and the judge ask for a bribe,
and the great man utters the evil desire of his soul;
thus they weave it together.
4 The best of them is like a brier,
the most upright of them a thorn hedge.
The day of your watchmen, of your punishment, has come;
now their confusion is at hand.
5 Put no trust in a neighbor;
have no confidence in a friend;
guard the doors of your mouth
from her who lies in your arms; [1]
6 for the son treats the father with contempt,
the daughter rises up against her mother,
the daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law;
a man's enemies are the men of his own house.
7 But as for me, I will look to the Lord;
I will wait for the God of my salvation;
my God will hear me.
Once again, we are interested in your response. However, we feel that you may be misinformed about the "quotes" you are using. Both Micah and Luke were not speaking of families being against each other in times of normality. These were in times of strife, times of famine, and times of great civil unrest. And, it was not to be taken as literally as you use them to quote. These quotes are literally taken way out of context. The actual Micah and Luke passages are as follows:
Luke 12: 49-53
49"I have come to bring fire on the earth, and how I wish it were already kindled! 50But I have a baptism to undergo, and how distressed I am until it is completed! 51Do you think I came to bring peace on earth? No, I tell you, but division. 52From now on there will be five in one family divided against each other, three against two and two against three. 53They will be divided, father against son and son against father, mother against daughter and daughter against mother, mother-in-law against daughter-in-law and daughter-in-law against mother-in-law."
Micah 7: 1-7
7:1 Woe is me! For I have become
as when the summer fruit has been gathered,
as when the grapes have been gleaned:
there is no cluster to eat,
no first-ripe fig that my soul desires.
2 The godly has perished from the earth,
and there is no one upright among mankind;
they all lie in wait for blood,
and each hunts the other with a net.
3 Their hands are on what is evil, to do it well;
the prince and the judge ask for a bribe,
and the great man utters the evil desire of his soul;
thus they weave it together.
4 The best of them is like a brier,
the most upright of them a thorn hedge.
The day of your watchmen, of your punishment, has come;
now their confusion is at hand.
5 Put no trust in a neighbor;
have no confidence in a friend;
guard the doors of your mouth
from her who lies in your arms; [1]
6 for the son treats the father with contempt,
the daughter rises up against her mother,
the daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law;
a man's enemies are the men of his own house.
7 But as for me, I will look to the Lord;
I will wait for the God of my salvation;
my God will hear me.
We would love to hear from you, in your own words, so that we may communicate without hiding behind quotes or hidden meanings. In order to heal this problem, as a family, we need to be able to communicate needs and wants. Your meaning is not clear and, without hearing you in your own words, we cannot help you until you allow us to. | |||||||||||||
Note: To Anonymous, From the Wenzel Family
Dear Anonymous:
Your message, dated March 20 at approximately 6:30 pm., gained our attention. We have been receiving your emails to us and we must say that we are glad to finally have a way to respond to your emails. As a family, we are very sorry that you are so angry with us. But, we have discovered that, as more emails appear, we grow more close knit as a family. You have to see, the more you show your anger, the more we support one another. That is what a family does... show support for those members in which it belongs. With that said, we, as a family, want to extend our forgiveness to you. We understand that, to try to hurt us (unsucessfully, I might add), you must be in a lot of pain and need some help in dealing with your anger. If you post again, we can direct you towards some really good self help sites. I personally, from experience, can tell you that the Samaritans really do write wonderful responses back and will listen to you and help you with all this anger. Family is family. You can threaten, cajole, or belittle us. You cannot break us, though. If we can help you... please stop pretending to be anonymous.
The Wenzel Family
Your message, dated March 20 at approximately 6:30 pm., gained our attention. We have been receiving your emails to us and we must say that we are glad to finally have a way to respond to your emails. As a family, we are very sorry that you are so angry with us. But, we have discovered that, as more emails appear, we grow more close knit as a family. You have to see, the more you show your anger, the more we support one another. That is what a family does... show support for those members in which it belongs. With that said, we, as a family, want to extend our forgiveness to you. We understand that, to try to hurt us (unsucessfully, I might add), you must be in a lot of pain and need some help in dealing with your anger. If you post again, we can direct you towards some really good self help sites. I personally, from experience, can tell you that the Samaritans really do write wonderful responses back and will listen to you and help you with all this anger. Family is family. You can threaten, cajole, or belittle us. You cannot break us, though. If we can help you... please stop pretending to be anonymous.
The Wenzel Family
Wednesday, March 19, 2008
Ack! You Missed A Special Holiday!
When I woke up on Sunday morning, I realized it was the the second Sunday after the first full week in March (A-whatsit-in-the-whatnow?). For a lot of people, that wouldn't mean a thing. But, to me, it is a very special holiday. It is Substitute Parents Day. Think of Mother's Day/Father's Day for people that act in the In Loco Parentis - ie: Teachers, Caregivers, Special Neighbors, Family Friends.... YOU get the point. Well, in high school, I always honored those teachers who made a difference in my life. And, before I married my husband, I honored his mother on this day (since Mother's Day didn't seem like the right day and I didn't like the Mother In Law's Day cards in October). For the last 3 years, I have honored my MIL on this very special of days. But, you know what? I didn't this year. You want to know why, right? Well, sad as it may seem, it didn't seem special enough this year. I felt like she deserved better. I mean, yes, a plant and a card are a nice gift. But, she really deserved something nice. And, I didn't know how to do that. I could have made dinner... but she is on a diet that seems to consist of potatoes and soup. This seems to also be the case for trying to make a dessert... who wants to eat a dessert when they are on a diet?
I thought maybe a nice note would work. I sat down and wrote about 3 drafts. None of them seemed to say what I wanted them to say... which is thank you for being such a great person who I seem to learn new stuff from daily (GAG me... that even sounds lame now). So, no note. Well, cleaning up seemed like a good thing... but I do that weekly anyways. That isn't special to just this week. I figure that maybe the best way to demonstrate I care is to tackle this issue again in October. Maybe there will be better cards this year!
I thought maybe a nice note would work. I sat down and wrote about 3 drafts. None of them seemed to say what I wanted them to say... which is thank you for being such a great person who I seem to learn new stuff from daily (GAG me... that even sounds lame now). So, no note. Well, cleaning up seemed like a good thing... but I do that weekly anyways. That isn't special to just this week. I figure that maybe the best way to demonstrate I care is to tackle this issue again in October. Maybe there will be better cards this year!
Tuesday, March 18, 2008
I Think That The Future Is Lookin' A Little Clearer
As I sit here awaiting my acceptance or rejection from law school, I have been noticing that it seems like things are starting to look a little clearer to me. No matter what the decision is *for law school*, I will be dropping the Worker's Comp. claim in late July. I now can see that they are never going to settle this case, I am never going to get the money I am owed from this case, and it isn't worth fighting for anymore. I am wasting my life away waiting for this case to be settled instead of continuing to live my life. That isn't fair to me, nor to my family. Therefore, it cannot continue. As far as I am concerned, I'd drop it today if I could get clearance. But, that cannot happen until June... and might as well wait until we get back from vacation to get back to work. It will be nice to feel useful again.
As I said in my topic, the future seems a lot clearer right now. In June, we are traveling to New Hampshire to see Stephen's cousin graduate from Dartmouth. It will be a really great trip... and I always love seeing The California Crew (Stephen's California family). Now, if only we get our side trip to see some others to work out. If we could do that, this trip will be near perfect.
In July, Jane, Bill, Stephen, and I will be doing a "family vacation". This year's destination? It appears that we are doing the Columbus, Ohio/Dayton, Ohio/Louisville, Kentucky trip. We have been invited to be in the Dayton area for the 4th celebration (I am hoping to watch the fireworks at Wright-Patterson listening to the Air Force Band of Flight). Then, we can see my Ohio family (most of whom I have not seen in well over a year). After seeing my family, we will swing down to Louisville and see my mother-in-law's aunt and sister. I look forward to seeing them, too. I also would love to spend more time getting to see Louisville. Seeing as I don't even remember our last trip (2 years ago) - I WAS SICK -, I really want to see more of the city that Jane holds so dear and claims as her childhood home.
Hopefully, we will also get to see Jane's mother this summer. Whether this means she comes to visit us for a week before she goes to stay with Jane's sister on Long Island or whether we make a trip up to Long Island in August, I really hope we do get to see more of her. She is a really special lady whom I really enjoy spending time with.
I expect that this summer will also bring several family dinners and family events in Maryland. Quite possibly will see my parents (the C&O convention hits around my birthday again... so I can expect to share with Staunton, VA). I am hoping that my family realizes sometime that they are always welcome to come visit. I mean, after all, we are only 15 miles from the city limits of DC (about a 10 minute drive to Metro/20 minute Metro ride into the city), 30 minutes from Baltimore (or a 45 minute MARC ride), and 40 minutes from Annapolis. Prime location, as long as you don't want to go to Southern Maryland (Chesapeake Bay) or Ocean City. Both are a little less than 2 hours away. Then again, so are many other things.
PLACES LESS THAN 3 hours away:
Lancaster, PA / Amish country
Harper's Ferry
Williamsburg
Charlottesville - Monticello is there
Philadelphia
Skyline Drive/Luray Caverns
See... a lot to do!
Come visit me... please, my family!! :)
As I said in my topic, the future seems a lot clearer right now. In June, we are traveling to New Hampshire to see Stephen's cousin graduate from Dartmouth. It will be a really great trip... and I always love seeing The California Crew (Stephen's California family). Now, if only we get our side trip to see some others to work out. If we could do that, this trip will be near perfect.
In July, Jane, Bill, Stephen, and I will be doing a "family vacation". This year's destination? It appears that we are doing the Columbus, Ohio/Dayton, Ohio/Louisville, Kentucky trip. We have been invited to be in the Dayton area for the 4th celebration (I am hoping to watch the fireworks at Wright-Patterson listening to the Air Force Band of Flight). Then, we can see my Ohio family (most of whom I have not seen in well over a year). After seeing my family, we will swing down to Louisville and see my mother-in-law's aunt and sister. I look forward to seeing them, too. I also would love to spend more time getting to see Louisville. Seeing as I don't even remember our last trip (2 years ago) - I WAS SICK -, I really want to see more of the city that Jane holds so dear and claims as her childhood home.
Hopefully, we will also get to see Jane's mother this summer. Whether this means she comes to visit us for a week before she goes to stay with Jane's sister on Long Island or whether we make a trip up to Long Island in August, I really hope we do get to see more of her. She is a really special lady whom I really enjoy spending time with.
I expect that this summer will also bring several family dinners and family events in Maryland. Quite possibly will see my parents (the C&O convention hits around my birthday again... so I can expect to share with Staunton, VA). I am hoping that my family realizes sometime that they are always welcome to come visit. I mean, after all, we are only 15 miles from the city limits of DC (about a 10 minute drive to Metro/20 minute Metro ride into the city), 30 minutes from Baltimore (or a 45 minute MARC ride), and 40 minutes from Annapolis. Prime location, as long as you don't want to go to Southern Maryland (Chesapeake Bay) or Ocean City. Both are a little less than 2 hours away. Then again, so are many other things.
PLACES LESS THAN 3 hours away:
Lancaster, PA / Amish country
Harper's Ferry
Williamsburg
Charlottesville - Monticello is there
Philadelphia
Skyline Drive/Luray Caverns
See... a lot to do!
Come visit me... please, my family!! :)
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